How To Love Yourself
I tend to judge myself more than I love myself. It’s easy for me to see and fixate on the things I don’t like about myself; like the fact that I’m only 5’2″, I’m heavier than I would like to be, my hair is too frizzy to manage, I’m a really impatient person, and I struggle with letting things go. How easy was that? It took all of 10 seconds.
But if you ask me what I love about myself my ability to answer that question would immediately be shattered and my thoughts redirected to another realm of thinking. If my brain were a computer screen you might see some of these words battling for space:
Selfish. Conceited. Self-centered.
There’s a conflict that arises when you ask me to see the good in myself. I’m not sure where this conflict originated from and how it has become something that takes up space in my mind. Since when did it become wrong to love who we are? Why do I feel the need to shy away from love who God created me to be?
Why is it that when we identify with beauty in ourselves (inside and out) we have to battle the criticism others project on us?
It is not selfish to love who you are. It’s not selfish or conceited, self-centered or arrogant. There is nothing wrong with adoring who God has created you to be.
How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them!
Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand —
when I awake, I am still with you.
So if God speaks so many precious thoughts about us that they would outnumber the grains of sand (like we have the ability to count every grain of sand anyway) surely it is okay for you to love yourself!
By now you might be asking, “Why does this matter so much?”
Well, here’s the kicker. I believe that how we think about ourselves and how feel about ourselves is a direct reflection of how we love on other people. Actually, that’s a biblical standard (Matthew 22:39).
Jesus said to him, “ ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”
Matthew 22:37-40 (NKJV)
It’s important to love you because we are called to love others in that same manner.
So now that we have established a foundation and built a framework, let’s talk about this: 10 Ways to Love Yourself.
1. Get on God’s level. God has a lot of inspiring things to say about you! We talked about a few of them earlier but in case you need more than that, check out some of the cool things God says about you.
2. Stop Comparing. Seriously, you were made to stand out! You were made to be different! You were made in God’s image and He calls you good. Actually He calls you very good (Genesis 1:31).
3. Know Your Strengths. In a world that like to flaunt our failures in our faces, it’s important to know what we are good at. Know your strengths and be proud of them. Use them to better yourself (or better yet the people around you).
4. Take Care of Your Body. We take care of the things we love, right? So take care of yourself. Eat like you love your body, move like you love your body, and rest like you love your body. Be a good steward of you.
5. Be Gracious to your “down falls.” We can’t all be good at everything, but there’s no need to feel down about the areas of our lives that aren’t where we want them to be. Be gracious with yourself. Forgive your down falls and press onto greatness. Because you are great.
6. Support Yourself. Find ways to support yourself in your goals and dreams. And when you’ve done all you can on your own, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes asking for help is the best way to support yourself.
7. Speak Kindly to Yourself. Speak life, and throw criticism out the window. It has no place in your mind, heart, or life.
8. Find something you love to do and do it often. I love to blog. I love to dance. I love to sing. And trust me, I do them all often. It doesn’t have to be some big purposeful thing. It just needs to be something for you. Running, reading, swimming, sketching, diy, ANYTHING. Find something to be passionate about and pursue it.
9. Live Life Like It Matters. Because it does. The choices that you make, the things that you say, your day to day actions; they matter. You matter. Your opinion and your voice make a difference when you walk the talk. So live life like it matters. Advocate for yourself.
10. Love Yourself Where You Are At. Don’t wait. You don’t have to accomplish anything spectacular to become someone worth loving. Love yourself where you are at.
Now I know you’ve got some awesome tips to share too. I’d love to hear them! Drop you thoughts in the comment below!